Pride without Arrogance: How to be Student C
Two weeks ago, we talked about how to be humble, yet proud of the work you’ve done. There is a fine line between pride and arrogance, so this week we’re going to talk about how you can best fit the description of ‘humble’, in the classroom.
As you can see from the first post, the aim is to be ‘Student C’
I know two people like this, and they are two of the most caring people I know. They’re smart, but they also engage with their peers. They know when to accept a compliment, and when to shake it down. If they haven’t really worked for something, they won’t appreciate you telling them it’s great. This is the ideal we’re talking about. For the two that I know, they haven’t worked on this, they were just born to be humble, and brilliant. Fortunately, this is something you can work
The best way to be honest with your peers is to be honest with yourself. Saying your work is terrible, because you’re worried about people’s perception of you will be damaging to your self-esteem. Allowing your perfectionism to get in the way of self-evaluation can also lead to drops in confidence. People respect others who speak what they believe. Your peers will trust you more if you can tell them what you really think about your assignment.
Judging your work on others is bound to make someone feel bad, so don’t do it. The best medicine is prevention, so be honest, but don’t focus on the differences. I’m assuming that if you struggle with arrogance, you get pretty good grades.Even if you’re talking to the student with the lowest score in the class, be honest with them. If you feel your work is bad, instead of saying ‘mine’s terrible’, tell them that you think you could have put more effort in.
Compassion doesn’t just mean consoling others, it also involves telling them the truth gently. One of the worst signs of arrogance is bluntness. If one of your friends is disappointed in their work, don’t tell them to stop complaining, explain to them why their work is so great. If it falls desperately short of their standard, offer ways to improve. The help and support you provide will be much appreciated, and hopefully returned, in the future.
Process, not Results
Be happy with the effort you put in. If you’ve gone to extraordinary lengths to complete an assignment to the best of your ability, you should be proud of it. If you haven’t, resolve to fix this in the next assignment, and tell people such when they ask.
Learn to take a compliment. If someone tells you your work is the best in the class, say thanks, congratulate them on their mark, and leave it at that. Don’t go on about all the flaws in your project, leave that for your self-evaluation. Further more, don’t say something arrogant, like ‘Yeah, I know.’ Worst thing you could do. People will think you’re egotistical.
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habits of mind
- Applying Past Knowledge to New Situations
- Creating, Imagining, and innovating
- Finding Humour
- Gathering Data through all the Senses
- Listening with Understanding and Empathy
- Managing Impulsivity
- Questioning and Posing Problems
- Remaining Open to Continuous Learning
- Responding with Wonderment and Awe
- Striving for Accuracy
- Taking Responsible Risks
- Thinking about Thinking
- Thinking and Communicating with Clarity and Precision
- Thinking Flexibly
- Thinking Interdependently