BASIX: This section is designed for the study newbie. Sure, you’ve been at school for years, but that doesn’t mean you’ve been doing it properly. Get up to scratch here.
Many students, in fact, many people, are afraid of failing, to the extent that they don’t want anyone else to know they are struggling, let alone help them. We’re not here to delve into why, but rather work on asking for help.
What to Ask
People struggle with a variety of different things every day, so it’s important to unload some of these struggles on someone else, even if only temporarily. At the start, you might only feel comfortable asking for some extra help with your studies, but you should not be afraid of talking about moral, emotional or personal issues with someone you trust.
Trusted Friend or Complete Stranger?
First and foremost, you should ask someone whose advice you trust. There is no point going to someone who a) doesn’t know what they are talking about, or b) you can’t trust because they’ve messed up in the past. Your best bet would be someone with experience in the topic you’re having trouble with. Then you have to decide whether you need to be comfortable with the person in question. It really depends on what you are looking for. A shoulder to cry on, or a tough love speech? Some technical jargon, or a good heart-to-heart. Pick your helper wisely.
You’re never wrong, you know that. But what happens when you are, or you don’t like what you’re hearing? You need to listen to advice like this without the pessimistic attitude you may have had in the past. I, for one, missed many opportunities because I was too arrogant to listen to what I was being told. This doesn’t mean you have to utilise every suggestion, just that you should approach them with an open mind.
Why You Shouldn’t Be Afraid
I mentioned before that many students are afraid of failing. Quite often, these are the students who feel like they work best independently. But being able to work collaboratively will often mean you are more open to suggestions from others. Many of the best minds did not get there by locking themselves away in isolation. So by asking for help, and looking to others for inspiration, you will be able to reach your full potential a lot quicker.
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